Do you feel lonely in your problems?
You might feel lonely because your friends don’t know about your problems. You might feel lonely because your problems are big and ongoing, and you wish that those around you checked in to see how you were still doing. You might feel lonely because you are in a time in your life when you don’t have a lot of people in your life – maybe through a move, a change in circumstances, or some other reason. Either way, you have a big problem, and right now, you feel alone, facing circumstances that are threatening to overwhelm you.
While there are some ways around the situations listed above (identify a friend who you can trust, ask for help, find a way to connect with others who share the same problems), you are still left with your problems and most people cannot be there for you 24 hours a day. I have some wonderful friends, a loving family, and a great husband, and they cannot be there for me all the time. When I have problems, they cannot fix them. When I am struggling, they cannot keep my head above water. Don’t get me wrong – these are great people and I love them. But they are not God.
When I truly turn to God with my problems, the loneliness does not seem as important. I come to God with the burdens I have and ask Him to please take the burden from me. But many times, I just have to trust Him to get me through it. It’s a million step journey and I’m only on step 202. But He gives me power for each step. He answers every prayer, just maybe not on my timetable or agenda. He gives me hope and peace that is beyond understanding.
Yet God knows our need for other people. And He, in His sovereignty, provides those people at the right time. These people pray, listen, and sometimes troubleshoot. Those who have gone through the same trial before show you how they got through it. They may not always be the same people or the ones who you expect. And yes, some people may let you down. But you don’t know what they are going through or where God has them serving right now. Realize that not every person you know is going to be there for you every moment of the day. It’s OK. God is there.
It is hard to grow in trust in God through trials. But it is often the best thing to come out of difficult times. Lean into Him throughout the process through prayer, study of His Word, and connecting with other believers.